After engaging in many activities, do you sometime experience a mixed bag of emotions : success, failure, disappointment, motivation, dizziness, dead-end, fear and indifference? I sure do! But how do you react to these movements?

For a long time, my first reaction was to turn my attention to the side effects (it goes too fast, I’m not present…) . I eventually developed my analytical side to better weigh the pros and cons. Both approaches, however, were not satisfactory. I discovered that what serves me best on a daily basis is to force myself to stop and to become fully aware that I am in the “roller coaster”.

The “roller coaster” effect causes movement and action, which in turn creates both positive and negative impacts… By dint of living these movements, I developed my own expertise and was able to create from these situations. I selected three ideas that I would like to share with you:

1. Be aware, make a stop: it’s true to say that the body speaks -. It gives us warning signs, so listen to them. For me, retching gets me to stop. I do not like this feeling. When in the stop position, do some introspection: what is there, here and now? Let come all the words, without blocking. Write them down.
2. See differently: several studies show that humans have a tendency to see the negative before the positive. Reverse this process, “rewire” your brain for positive. ARCATA, Calif., October 21, 2013 – Neuropsychologist Rick Hanson says the human brain has evolved to sort for and focus on negative experiences, but with intention and discipline can be rewired for happiness. The field of neurology is often presented via the metaphor of the brain’s “wiring.” This is actually a nearly literal representation of how neurons interact. The connections are built and strengthened by repetition and familiarity. This occurs on many levels from very early on in life.As we get older, Hanson suggests we develop a “negativity bias.” He describes this as the tendency to focus more attention on, remember more clearly and react to life’s downs rather than ups. This creates wiring relevant to attitude, demeanour and personality, perhaps most noticeable as anxiety, pessimism or jadedness.The idea that the wiring can be updated is called neuroplasticity. A co-active coach will stimulate and activate this neuroplasticity.Hanson’s top “how to” for hardwiring happiness is mindfulness. He means more than just a style of meditation focused on acceptance of things exactly as they are. Hanson recommends cultivating a habit of staying focused on feelings of gratitude, appreciation and wonder for small joys, pleasures and new experiences. He also says it is important to set an intention for and expect happiness.Source: Huffington Post « Hardwiring happiness into the brain». http://c.washingtontimes.com/neighborhood/manifest-positivity/2013/oct/21/hardwiring-happiness-brain/
3. Learn to accept and switch to the receiving mode. Accept that you did the best you could. What you have done is suspended in space. As if you had planted seeds, you can expect that one day, you will get flowers!

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Christine Lecavalier